Arrival Fallacy
You imagine that meeting a specific goal as the be-all and end-all (provoking frustration and disappointment when it isn’t as sweet as anticipated).
The arrival fallacy is
the idea that achieving a goal will lead to lasting happiness.
However, people often find that the happiness that they feel after reaching a goal is short-lived.
What causes the arrival fallacy?
- Overestimating future joy: People often overestimate how happy they’ll be when they achieve a goal.
- Underestimating present value: People often underestimate how much value they get from the present moment.
- Social pressure: Society often emphasizes achievements as a source of happiness.
- Social media: Social media can create unrealistic expectations about happiness by showing people’s highlights without their struggles.
How can people overcome the arrival fallacy?
- Set waypoints, not final destinations: Think of goals as a way to direct your energy, not as a final destination.
- Celebrate and move on: When you reach a goal, celebrate your victory and then move on to the next thing.
- Find purpose in new goals: Once you’ve reached a goal, look for new goals that give your life meaning.