Holding grudges

Not accepting other people’s flaws is a sign that someone isn’t nice, even if they pretend to be.

People who show true kindness are able to hold space for inconsistencies and recognize that no one shows up as their best selves all the time. They understand that perfection is a myth.

When they feel hurt, they call attention to it and expect actionable repair, but they don’t hold people’s mistakes against them. They let go of past damage, instead of letting it consume them.

But someone who holds grudges is often unable to see a person’s mistake as separate from who they are at their core. They define people by what they’ve done wrong, instead of giving them grace.