Self esteem and Self improvement

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Live a life of discipline, continuous self-education, courage, and integrity. When you do so, your self-respect will continue to grow, eventually leading to you being respected by the world.

Your self-esteem is the reputation you have with yourself.

There can be no causeless love or any sort of causeless emotion. An emotion is a response to a fact of reality, an estimate dictated by your standards - Ayn Rand, Atlas Shrugged

Achievement of your happiness is the only moral purpose of your life, and that happiness, not pain or mindless self-indulgence, is the proof of your moral integrity, since it is the proof and the result of your loyalty to the achievement of your values - Ayn Rand

Honor is self-esteem made visible in action - Ayn Rand

Do not let your fire go out, spark by irreplaceable spark in the hopeless swaps of the not-quite, the not-yet, and the not-at-all. Do not let the hero in your soul perish in lonely frustration for the life you deserved and have never been able to reach. The world you desire can be won. It exists.. it is real.. it is possible.. it is yours… - Ayn Rand

Self esteem and Self respect come with Self improvement.

Better priorities, better problems, better life

Self-improvement is really about prioritizing better values, choosing better things to care about. Because when you care about better things, you get better problems. And when you get better problems, you get a better life.

The following five counter-intuitive values are the most beneficial values one can adopt. All require confronting deeper problems rather than avoiding them through highs. These five values are both unconventional and uncomfortable. But they are life-changing.

  1. The first is a radical form of responsibility :
    1. taking responsibility for everything that occurs in your life, regardless of who is at fault.
    2. You have the primary responsibility to do something if your life is not how it should be
  2. The second is uncertainity :
    1. the acknowledgement of your own ignorance and the cultivation of constant doubt in your own beliefs.
  3. The next is failure :
    1. the willingness to discover your own flaws and mistakes so that they may be improved upon.
  4. The fourth is rejection :
    1. the ability to both say and hear no, thus clearly defining what you will and will not accept in your life.
    2. Habits - Banish the word fine. Refuse to settle.
    3. Habits - Say No. Stop being a Yes Man.
    4. Unproductive habits - Not valuing your time
  5. The final value is the contemplation of one's own mortality:
    1. this one is crucial, because paying vigilant attention to one’s own death is perhaps the only thing capable of helping us keep all our other values in proper perspective.

Work hard on yourself

by Jim Rohn

Learn to work harder on yourself than you do on your job. When you understand this pholosophy, and when you work on yourself, everything will change for you. That’s the simple philosophy that changed my life forever. And the whole scope of this is what we now call personal development.

If you work hard on your job, you can make a living, which is fine. If you work hard on yourself, you can make a fortune, which is super fine.

I didn’t mind working hard on my job; but things didn’t seem to change that much. Then I started working hard on myself to qualify. So let me put it in a philosophical phrase.

Success is something you attract. Success is not something you pursue. It’s something you attract by becoming attractive. You can have more than what you’ve got because you can become more than you are. If you can multiply your value by three, by five, you can easily multiply your income by three, by five, by 10.

But the key to doing it is to work hard on yourself. This personal development part is learning multiple skills, if it would serve you, multiple languages. Work hard on yourself. You know people are fun to work with. Sometimes, it’s not fun to work with yourself. You just go through this dilemma. How come I’m reluctant when I should be excited? The work we do is fairly easy. You know the world is mostly full of real nice people. In fact, there’s only about 11 or 12 real nasty, miserable, horrible people in the whole world. Now, they move around a lot. So you’re bound to find one once in a while. But if you found one, you say, hey, there’s only 11 more like you; I can handle that; I mean there’s not a thousand; But here’s the Big Challenge.

Work hard on yourself, your personality and temperament and mindset, culture; all the stuff necessary to individually be responsible, be a growing, attractive, powerful, skillful, communicating human being.

And the world belongs to you.

Reading material

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  1. Look at notes about Consumerism
    1. Depth year
    2. Aquisition problem
  2. Desire
  3. Discipline
  4. Do you own initiatives or do you lack agency?
  5. Emotional Intelligence
  6. Giving and receiving advice
  7. Habits
    1. Good Habits
    2. Bad Habits
  8. Mental Strength and Relaxed Confidence
  9. Organize your life
  10. Research, note taking, studying and learning
  11. Self doubt
  12. Specialization vs Generalization
  13. Success
  14. Systems and Goals
  15. Telling the truth
  16. Temptation bundling
  17. Why not you
  18. Willpower
  19. Work hard
  20. You have the primary responsibility to do something if your life is not how it should be

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